kennen und wissen…

I love language. I do. I wonder sometimes why our american version of the english language has felt so limited to me at times even though it is, sadly, the only language I speak with any fluency.

I was thinking the other day about my high school German. I have not retained much over the years but there was this one thing, this one thought that struck me and never went away.

In German there are two words for the verb “to know.”

Kennen and Wissen

Kennen is for concrete things, persons, places (to be familiar with, to be aquainted with)
“I know that road leads to Brighton”

Wissen is for abstract items, concepts, ideas (to have an understanding of or to have knowledge of)
“I know that everything will be alright.”

They are not interchangable, they truly have their own specific meanings, however subtle they may appear. When I learned this concept sitting in German class I did not know what it was about kennen and wissen that was so appealing to me. I just knew that it held me somehow and then I lost it in the conjugation, I mean that literally. I cannot remember how to conjugate these verbs.

It’s interesting that only now in my life do I really know what it means to not just “kennen” but rather to “wissen” especially as it pertains to people, to relationships, to being known myself. I seek out, I desire, I require, I yearn for wissen…

I’m ready to move away from the kennen…although it’s where we do need to begin, I suppose:

“I know that you are 30 years old.”
“I know that you work at Borders Books”
“I know that you were born in the Midwest.”

It’s the wissen though…this is where we don’t just greet but where we live:
“I know that you have a beautiful soul.”
“I know that when you laugh my heart sings”
“I know that when I am old I will want to still be your friend.”

this is where I am today.

Overheard at my house….”Revelation”

Just to tide you over til I get my groove on again:

Chester 8 and Henry 6, running excitedly up the stairs this morning from the TV room-

Chet: Riley! Riley!!

Henry: Guess what!

Riley: (bored and annoyed with her brothers) What?

Chet: You were RIGHT! Errol Flynn IS Robin Hood!

Riley: (exasperated sigh) Great.

end scene

Radical Thought: Making Room…

I feel overwhelmed. All the time. Whether it’s the housework or the schoolwork or the heartwork…it’s overwhelming. The world crowds in on me. The culture crowds in and I live in the middle of freakin’ nowhere so I have to think that it’s crowding in on you as well so I thought I’d write about that.

I’ve been thinking, quite a lot lately about the idea of making room. I’ve been preparing for a move that is as of yet undetermined but nonetheless inevitable. I’m throwing things away and boxing things. I’m giving things to charity and to friends. When I look around a room after this I see the spaces those “things” left behind and I am happy for that. I delight in the empty spaces. There is so much possibility, so much hope in empty spaces when viewed with the proper lens.

As I thought on this I considered, emotionally, the idea of being crowded…having no room at the Inn as it were. I know what it feels like to clean out old stuff in my heart…in my head…in my psyche. It feels good to throw away something destructive I’ve been clinging to. It helps to have other people help me appraise the stuff in my metaphorical attic…what is cash and what is trash…it helps to clear things away and make some room.

Of course this empty space will get filled again over time, some good things, some not so good. All I can hope is that my taste in emotional furniture is improving.

Status…

I’ve been Facebook-ing…as you know but now also I’ve begun Twitter-ing which, it seems is just all about documenting what I’m doing all the time.

Every time I type up a “status” line on either of these I am reminded of an old Louie Anderson stand up bit about being in First Class on a plane so I YouTube-d that and found it. It’s kind of a long piece but hilarious, I think. The part I’m thinking of is actually at the very end…of course.

I’m only posting this because sometime at a party I’m going to make an obscure joke about it to one of you and I’m hoping someone will get it. So there’s that.

Mrs Fix-it

When I was just out of college I dated a guy who was always trying to fix things for me whether they were mechanical or emotional in nature. If it was broke he tried to fix it. He was my Mr Fix-it boyfriend and it made me mental.

I’m not sure that I would say I have always been independently minded but at least, starting in High School with the discovery of the Sex Pistols I ranked right up there on the independent scale. This is why Mr Fix-it didn’t last long. I didn’t WANT him to fix it. I wanted him to hear about it, have the proper amount of sympathy and then help ME find a solution.

It is this memory that triggers something in me today. I am involved in a community of people who move against the Fix-it grain. We all want to fix what’s broken in us, don’t get me wrong but we have this common language now that we speak that is all about listening, having the proper amount of grace and then helping each other find a solution.

The best part of the process for me, frankly, is coming together and showing what’s broken. A kind of show and tell for the injured.

It’s a risk, a very great risk to show what’s broken. It’s intimate. It’s embarrassing. It’s humbling.

But if showing what’s broken is hard (and it is) then what is even more difficult is being the one to view the broken. Learning to listen. Not offering to fix it. Not comparing it to my own broken pieces but just letting silence fill the space while tears gather and then, when all is said and done we look around the room and know that we are known. We know that we are loved and accepted no matter how broken we are.

this is the good stuff. trust me on this.

No more Mrs Fix-it. That’s what I’m thinking about today.

Overheard at my house: Nazi is a 4 letter word…

Transcribed for your entertainment and edification:

Chet (8yrs) and Henry (6yrs) discuss the following:

Chet: I want to watch the first Indiana Jones. Who wants to watch with me?

Henry: NO! That has bad stuff in it!

Chet: No, it’s fine, we’ve seen it already

Henry: We’re not allowed to watch it

Chet: Why not?

Henry: It has scary stuff…and bad words.

Chet: like what?

Henry: Like Nazis. They’re like bad words, we shouldn’t watch that.

Among all the “scary” things or the normally considered “bad words” my kids saw in Indiana Jones the one that made the impression was this. I’m not kidding when I say that this moves me. I’m proud of that bit of discernment. A strangely profound gift today.

Bringing Paris to Washington…